Online Shopping Traps

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I haven’t done a good rant post in a while and I’m feeling the need to rant.

I don’t know which of you out there needs to hear this, but I feel like it needs to be said:

If it doesn’t fit, return it.


Online shopping is awesome, it really is. You can comparison shop, find amazing sales, and even track down a duplicate of a well-loved item.

However, it’s also a trap.

I looked for some psychology articles to back this thought up, but can’t find any. So maybe it’s just me that thinks this, but I repeat… it’s a TRAP. And you need to stay strong.

According to my vast research, there are three types of online shopping traps. The ‘It’s Fine’ trap, the ‘I’m Busy’ trap and the ‘Goal Clothes’ trap. I’ve fallen for each one of these traps and my goal is to save one of you from making the same mistakes!

The ‘It’s Fine’ Trap

You see something you think you might love and the online store has ‘free shipping and free returns’ so you figure, you’ll give it a try and return it if you don’t like it.

And then it comes in the mail and you try it on. And it’s fine.

Maybe the color isn’t exactly what you were expecting. Or perhaps it’s a little shorter or longer than you would have liked. Maybe it’s just not as flattering as it was in your imagination. But it’s FINE. So, you stick it in your closet.

And it sits in your closet with the tags on. Frankly, it never sparks joy.

One day you rip the tags off and decide, THAT’S IT, I paid for this and I’m going to WEAR IT. So, you do.

And it’s fine. But not great.

Back into the closet it goes and you keep pushing it to the back, and never wearing it. But you can’t donate it or sell it because DANG IT you just bought it and hardly even wore it!

See, it’s a thing, right?

The ‘I’m Busy’ Trap

Or maybe you buy something and you don’t love it. So, you stick it on your dresser to return it next time you’re near that store.

And time goes by and by and by and finally you just shove the item in a drawer because you’re never going to have time to return it, so you might as well just wear it.

But you don’t love it, so it just keeps getting stuck in the back of your drawer for a year before you finally donate it.

The ‘Goal Clothes’ Trap

All of us have fallen into the goal clothes trap, right? You find something that is so fabulous, so beautiful and such a wonderful price and you MUST have it. It would be a crime not to buy it! But then it arrives at your house and it’s too small.

What do you tell yourself? Right. IT CAN BE MY GOAL OUTFIT FOR WHEN I LOSE WEIGHT!

We all tell ourselves that bullcrap. Let me tell you a secret. You don’t need goal clothes. If you decide to lose weight, you will want to go out and buy yourself something nice to celebrate. I promise you.

There is no need to keep goal clothing around that just makes you feel bad about yourself.

Overcoming the Cycle

I’ve been stuck in this cycle for years. Maybe my whole life. But I think I’m finally at the point where I’m ready to break free of it.

Just a couple weeks ago I saw a dress on a lovely lady on Instagram and I had to have it. It was super reasonably priced and it was a style I’d been looking for, so I ordered it in two sizes to make sure I got my perfect fit.

The dresses arrived in the mail a couple days later. I tried on the medium and it was a little too snug in the bust. Then I tried on the large, and it was a little too baggy.

That’s cool, I could make a few easy alterations on my own. But then, I grabbed a couple potential bras to wear under it before making the alterations… and none of them worked. Not one single bra in my drawer would work under this dress.

Sure, I could go down the rabbit hole of finding a new bra. Buying more STUFF to make this dress work. This dress that was a little too baggy. This dress that needed some alterations to fit my body. This dress that still had the tags on it.

So instead, I returned it.

And it felt great.

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A Weekend Away in OCMD

Even though the weather was forecasted to be in the low 60’s with clouds and rain, we decided to take advantage of the fact that it was our family’s turn to use the Ocean City house and made the trek down to the beach. Frankly, we could use a change of scenery… and some new restaurant options too.

However, due to a police chase and standoff that shut down the Bay Bridge for hours, we almost gave up and turned back around. Instead, we decided to do a little walk around Annapolis and go out for lunch. Jack requested to go to some of my favorite antique spots that I visit with Lindsey, so we stopped by two fun little shops in Deale before deciding to check the traffic down to the beach again.

Things were looking up, so we gave it another try and I’m SO glad we did!

We ended up getting to Ocean City just around dinner time, so after dropping our stuff at the house we met the crew at a nearby restaurant. And by the crew, I mean my mom and dad, my brother, his wife, and their baby. It was the first time we have been able to see each other in person since getting vaccinated, so being able to sit around a table safely while enjoying drinks and delicious food was FANTASTIC. And for the first time in a YEAR my mom got a hug from me and Jack!

We were only in town for about 22 hours, so the weekend flew by. There was an amazing dinner with some of the best scallops of my life, ice cream, a Mother’s Day breakfast out, another delicious lunch. Basically, we just ate the whole time. Oh, and there was a rousing and hilarious game of charades and a ton of baby snuggles.

All in all, it was a pretty fantastic Mother’s Day weekend!

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A Quick Mayari Birkenstock Update

Last summer, I got back into Birkenstocks and wore the heck out of my Gizeh sandals. I ended up buying a pair of Mayari sandals mid-Summer (you can read the full post here: Birkenstock Review: Mayari Birko Flor Sandals) and love them too.

A month or so ago I started being stalked by Birkenstock advertisements on Facebook and Instagram and one particular style kept catching my eye. They came out with a Mayari sandal with a patterned footbed!


I ordered the Ochre color because I like how it looks kind of tan in some lights, but more goldenrod yellow in others. As for sizing, I typically wear an 8.5 – 9 in shoes and a EU39 in Birkenstocks fits me perfectly.

If possible, this pair somehow fits even more comfortably than my other pair of Mayari sandals. The leather straps are super soft and the cork bottom hugs my foot. I love the little peek of pattern that you can see on the footbed! I anticipate wearing these all summer long with all my summer outfits.

I’ve already started wearing them around the house every day since it’s getting too warm for slippers, but my feet don’t appreciate going barefoot for too many days in a row.

They are selling out of sizes, so I did some searching and found them at a few retailers:

They are not cheap at $135, however this truly is one of those ‘get what you pay for’ items. I now have three pairs of Birkenstocks that I regularly wear (one secondhand) and they all look and feel as good as new!

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