As many of you know, I lost a friend of mine in an accident over the weekend.
He was a wonderful, generous and amazing man. We had been friends for a while, followed by a bit of dating each other, followed by going back to being friends. We kind of faded out of each other’s lives a few years ago, but I always held him in the highest regard.
Part of me feels like I’m not allowed to grieve or feel loss, because we hadn’t been in touch. The other part of me is grieving because the world lost such a great guy.
He was so incredibly proud when he bought his plane and was honored to be able to work with the Ocean City Police Department. I will always remember his twinkling mischief eyes, his generosity and his fearlessness.
We will miss you Tom.
7 thoughts on “Loss”
I’m so sorry Julie.
My condolences. If you feel the need, grieving is exactly what you should do. You lost someone you cared about, would have stopped to have a coffee with, Im sure, had you run into him on the street. Lives that we lose touch with over the years are no less impactful to us. Im sorry for your loss.
thinking of you. you are so allowed to grieve for what you have lost, doesn’t matter if you have been in touch recently or not.
Being out of touch doesn’t mean you’ve lost your right to grieve. You lost someone who had an impact on your life. Take time to come to terms with things. Sounds like the world lost a good guy- I hope all his family and friends find peace and healing. You know where to find me if you need any old thing. XOXO
When I was 17, a girl who had been my best friend in 7th grade passed away. We had gone in very different directions after middle school, and she lived one of those fast and hard lives. When my mom and I went to her wake to pay our respects, I got the dirtiest looks from her current friends, because I was wearing my letterman’s jacket and they didn’t understand. But we all have the right to grieve any loss in our own way. Always. I am so sorry for your loss.
Hugs friend. You have every right to grieve. And you need to grieve. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t spoken to a dear friend in 5, 10, or even 15 years, they will always hold a special place in your heart.
thinking of you – so sorry for your loss.